“She is in serious trouble, and her son is right behind her.” — Spoken with authority and a lack of compassion, this “casual” remark by a coworker never left my mind for the rest of the day.
For years, research and the creative media have looked at older couples who live together in the same nursing home. Anecdotally, I have seen siblings and cousins who lived at the same facility. As we continue to live longer, perhaps we’d also be seeing parent and child entering the same nursing home?
How would it look like administratively, socially, and psychologically?
How would you feel about moving into the same nursing home your mother told you not to put her into 15 years ago, now that you also have trouble caring for yourself?
Imagine you’re in your 60’s, barely mobile physically, plagued by health problems and depression, while your 90-year-old mother, though suffering from severe COPD and mild cognitive impairment, is the life of the party at the facility…